Sunday, July 28, 2013

Difference in Love and Idea of Love

I have seen this kind of stories many times in my life and definitely it took a little time to understand the facts and reality of these stories.

Let me tell you a little story, there was a guy and a girl who used to like each other. I just want a special mention here that liking each other may not be in physical terms, reality is our mental interpretation and if mentally you feel connected means, it is a relation, whether they are in same city or far distant, both are relation. They had so many things in common to understand, interpret and respond to each other. There was a a very good silent communication between them, which was untold but it was well understood. As light dispels darkness without a sound, they had a fearless exchange of love without any physical expression. Oh yes it was beautiful.

They were living in different cities. So they were on facebook, gmail, watsapp, airtel, reliance, vodafone etc. and all the means was to connect each other, live with each other. Love has a beautiful magnetic chemistry of spending almost all of your time with your lover, whether they talk nonsense, meaningless or even repetitive, or even when they are silent, they would want to be close, they would want to feel the closeness, they would want to feel a sort mental integration of their existence, and that is why it is substantial and even divine, because only here you want to loose yourself.

Slowly guy was evolving like a sun and girl was growing her wings in the sky of their love, very soon they were flying. One day guy says, I want to meet you, I want to see you, I want to just feel all that reality in your eyes without any words, any voice, any mental interpretation, let it be instinct, let it be just being. And yes this is called evolution, the moment you start creating a relationship, you must check two boundary parameters, whether it is an idea, or it is a need. 

Over the time, guy goes through misery because girl never shows courage to meet... and stories decays in time.

In the many other stories, some will pretend to face the reality, some will buy time, some (even after staying in the same city) they will figure out moral stories to hide them self, some will create sequence of event to happen, then they will face, it's all bakwas, a simple lack of courage and proof that it's not love, it's idea of love. Cowards can never be lovers, lovers will show the willingness to jump into even infinity.

An Idea of love is not love, you just get the feeling of love, it is not love, a self delusion created by our mental web. And I have seen many stories where it was not love, it was just an idea of love. Thoughts (and so ideas) carries energy, it has power to change your psychology, it has power to convince, make you feel and even change your perception. But you should be little careful with such relations, its a sheer waste of time. In fact it will take you away from real love, because you'll become little obsessed with idea of love, love will no longer impress you. It's like many alcoholic no longer enjoy the juice. And I have seen intellectuals to trap a lot in such false relations, Do not get addicted to such ideas, cut it, drop it, and trust me you are not going to loose anything. Living in false reality is worst than living in painful reality, because once you accept the pain, you'll start seeking naturally in life that what is that something which is beyond the pain and misery. 

The simple difference between love and idea of love is, Love will have courage, a positvity, a self evolved creativity to take you on higher sky. Idea of love, will have pleasure, a consolation that you are not alone, a companionship of intellectual and emotional communication, but at the close watch, in such pleasure, there will be a lack of contentment, and bingo !!! that is a mental vicious cycle you are getting trapped into, break it, come out of it and move on. As per your quality, you'll be rewarded in time, because thirst can bring the well to you. And trust me, it happens, just keep your umbrella open, sun can fall anytime...

There is a second aspect in love, need based love is also waste of time, will talk about it later. 

Love you all :)

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